Isn’t it nice to know that January is over? It is never an easy month to live through, especially if you fight depression.

And with the end of January we know that Valentine’s Day is looming. It is my intention this year to give myself a very special Valentine’s Day gift: take very good care of myself.

Whether or not you are in a relationship, depression can make you feel alone. Being in a bad relationship or one that doesn’t nurture you is possibly the loneliest place of all.

So now it is time to spoil ourselves in the smallest of ways, in order to remember how unique each of us really is. Here are some ideas:

If you are currently in the Black Hole, try to remember something for which you are grateful, even if it is just getting out of bed today.

If you aren’t in the Black Hole, give something nurturing to yourself each day in February. It doesn’t mean you need to spend any money. Especially if you have financial stressors as so many depressed people have.

What about brushing your teeth an extra time each day?  Or making sure your hair is clean and neat? It doesn’t matter how small the gesture is but once you do it, write it down in your journal as a way of loving yourself. The important thing is that you are doing something for yourself.

Maybe you buy yourself a candy bar. It may not be good for you, but if it is your way to love yourself, write it down and be grateful for the gift of remembering your uniqueness.

Use the affirmation: “Nothing is too good for me.”

You might not believe it, but that may not be what matters. If you actually follow through with the affirmation, that is worth your gratitude.

If you are in a place where you can treat yourself to something bigger, go ahead, as long as doing so doesn’t negatively impact you financially or ultimately work against your higher self.

And that is the most important gift of all. Remembering your higher self which is unlike anyone else’s in the Universe. It is your light and it can be your source of gratitude or self-love any day of the year.

So here’s to Valentine’s Day. A day to express your unique brand of loving as a way to give yourself what no one else can. And try to express it each day in February.