Visual Cues that Drive Our Behavior
I believe that schools nurture our ability to watch for disapproval.
Think about it.
Remember when a teacher raised their eyebrows or frowned when you gave an answer they weren’t looking for?
Competition is bred in the grading systems that so many of us have lived by, which easily leads to the notion that perfect is possible.
But, there is no perfect! It doesn’t exist! It is a mind game we learned when we kept going for the A or A+.
Of course being able to read people is a great survival skill. And we’re hard-wired to be watchful for others’ reactions.
But not when it gets in the way of nurturing our self-esteem.
By that I mean when we interpret negative visual cues from someone in authority. We automatically think of the worst possible outcome; what prompted the negative response?
And that may not be remotely realistic.
So ask if you’re not sure. You may be surprised.
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